17 January, 2017

I recently received a negative comment here on my blog and I was taken aback.  I didn’t know what to do about it.  I moderate my comments because I don’t want a bunch of spam comments going up, and so I wasn’t sure whether I should approve this negative comment or not.

Now, I’m not saying this person was negative in the way that they were disagreeing with me or something.  No.  This person was straight-up rude in their comment.  Comments that disagree with me or an opinion I express, sure!  Go for it!  I love discussing even if we don’t agree!  That’s great!  That’s what discussion posts are for.  To discuss differing opinions of a certain subject.

But this comment was just plain rude.  Not cool.

This person was basically bashing me and my choice of books that I predominantly review on my blog.  So…why are you reading my blog then?  Or that particular post?  That’s beside the point. The point is that this person was just plain old not being nice and I didn’t appreciate it. Remember that saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”?  I think that applies to the typed word as well.  I mean, come on.  You’re really putting in the effort to go through the process of writing out a comment just to be rude?  I don’t get people.  Why not just be kind?

So.  After humming and hawing on this issue, I decided not to approve the comment.  I just decided that I didn’t want that negativity on my blog.  I still go back and look at that comment every so often and wonder if I should approve it, but then I remember my reasoning.  It’s a difficult choice because I want my readers to be heard, but if you’re not going to be nice, then I’m sorry but maybe you don’t deserve to be heard?

There is far too much negativity in the world, so I am not allowing that tiny bit of negativity to go farther than my eyes.

Feel free to disagree with me!  (Just be nice about it!)

Share your story: Do you moderate comments?  Have you ever received a negative comment like this?  Did you approve it?  Would you?

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Posted 17 January, 2017 by Sam in Blogging, Books, Discussions / 14 CommentsTags: , , ,


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14 Responses to “Negative Comments”

  1. That really sucks, why all people can’t be nice I don’t understand (smh). I also moderate my comments as well but as of yet I haven’t received a negative comment. I don’t know what I would do if I ever do, but I do agree with your reasoning of not approving it 🙂 Keep your blog positive…I mean it is is YOURS after all!! 🙂

    • Sam

      It was a difficult decision for me! But, that’s true that it is MY blog, and I’m satisfied with my decision.

  2. Wow! I have to say that I always find it crazy when I hear this sort of thing because in the four years I’ve been blogging, it’s never happened to me. I mean, I guess I’ve had people disagree with me, but never anyone who was just outright rude. I’m so sorry this happened to you. And I kind of have to agree that if the comment was just about the type of books you choose to review … um, why bother coming over and commenting about that? Why not just ignore the post? Why is it important to this person what types of books YOU read and review? People are just strange sometimes.
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    • Sam

      Exactly! I don’t get people. Lol. I’m glad it’s never happened to you! I’ve been blogging quite a few years myself (off and on lately though – haha) and this is the first time it’s happened to me and I was just surprised by it and didn’t know how to handle it!

  3. I’m so sorry that happened to you, and I totally get why you didn’t approve it. No one should be being rude to you on your own blog! I really don’t get why they are reading your blog either, let alone taking the time to comment if they have no interest in the types of books you read! 🙁
    I did get one negative comment on my own blog (which I left on there – I had the same conundrum wondering whether to delete it or not, but in the end decided to leave it and just not reply, which is a pretty strong statement considering I have replied to literally every other comment!). It was on a post where I listed my favourite characters from a popular YA book series, and this person literally went on for several hundred words ranting about how the character I liked best (the main character) was a terrible person and how horrible and stupid she was (talking all the time as if we were discussing an actual, real life person) and making out that I was stupid for liking her! It’s the only negative comment I’ve had in over two years of blogging, but it definitely sticks in my mind a lot, so I really can sympathise with you! I think these people just have nothing better to do, so I wouldn’t worry about it! 🙂
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    • Sam

      Oh wow! That’s just awful. I’m sorry that happened to YOU. I don’t understand why people can’t just be kind…

  4. My comments are moderated, like you in case of spam rather than to stop comments from people that don’t agree with me appearing on my blog. As far as I’m concerned everyone is entitled to their opinion, not everyone in the world is going to agree with me on everything, and I like a healthy debate. But as you say there’s a difference between someone disagreeing with an opinion and just being rude. I’m new to blogging, and as yet haven’t had to deal with this, but like you I wouldn’t share that to my blog, it’s my space, and while I’ll never stop differing viewpoints from appearing on my blog I wouldn’t want to spread any hate or negativity. I just don’t think the world needs it, my world certainly doesn’t.

  5. Aw man, that’s frustrating. I haven’t gotten a ton of negativity myself, but I did receive a comment on one of my TTT about characters I just didn’t like or something of the ilk. This person told me that the characters I listed were well-liked by people who actually read fantasy, and that if I don’t like them I should read a different genre. I was kind of like … “uuhm. Ok. I’m fairly certain that I’m allowed to NOT like certain things about the genre that I read almost exclusively. That doesn’t make me not like fantasy.” I was very put-off :/
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    • Sam

      No kidding! How rude of that person. The thing is everyone is different and everyone is going to have a different opinion. So what if you didn’t like the characters? I’m sure you weren’t the only one! That person can’t speak for all fantasy lovers.

  6. That just sucks! I would probably not approve a negative comment, especially if that person was just plain rude. I would probably call them out like you did here, except I would name them probably. I am not about people hiding behind a keyboard. I am so sorry this happened to you. We, as bloggers who do this for “fun”, should never have to deal with negative commenters.
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    • Sam

      Haha – I didn’t feel right about naming them, but that’s just me! Thanks. I agree. At least it doesn’t happen very often!