All Your Perfects captivated me from page 1! I sooo love when that happens.
This book is such a sad, but great, depiction of what real life is. Life is hard. Marriage is hard. You’re going to have ups and downs in your relationship. And you’re going to have struggles that you have to either work your ass off through or decide it’s not worth it. Either way it’s hard. These two characters are struggling with the fact that they will likely never have kids. They are struggling with infertility, in which no interventions seem to work, and adoption is not an option for them. They both really want kids. This is a very difficult thing to deal with and it’s really taking its toll on their relationship.
While I loved reading this book and didn’t want to put it down, at the same time I felt like I needed to take a break between chapters because it alternates between then and now. Deliriously happy, humorous, falling in love…to heartbreak, intensity, unhappiness. I kind of needed to take a short break between chapters just because switching gears like that just didn’t settle well with me. The break helped and then I would be ready to take on the next chapter. That just proves how invested I was in this story and the characters.
The following quote gives me all kinds of feels. Every marriage goes through rough times and I just love this metaphor so much.
I think about that sometimes. About what could make one couple survive a Category 5 moment, but a different couple might not. I’ve thought about it enough to come up with a possible reason.
Hurricanes aren’t a threat to coastal towns. There are more days with great weather and perfect beach days than there are hurricanes.
Marriages are similar, in that there are a lot of great days with no arguments, when both people are filled with so much love for each other.
But then you have the threatening-weather days. There might only be a few a year, but they can do enough damage that it takes years to repair. Some of the coastal towns will be prepared for the bad-weather days. They’ll save their best resources and most of their energy so that they’ll be stocked up and prepared for the aftermath.
But some towns won’t be as prepared. They’ll put all their resources into the good weather days in hopes that the severe weather will never come and the choice with greater consequences.
I think that’s the difference in the marriages that survive and the marriages that don’t. Some people think the focus in a marriage should be put on all the perfect days. They love as much and as hard as they can when everything is going right. But if a person gives all of themselves in the good times, hoping the bad times never come, there may not be enough resources or energy left to withstand those Category 5 moments.
This book. My God, this book. It really resonated with me. My husband and I have been through some rocky times in the last couple years, in a bit of an opposite way of the couple in this book. We changed after having our daughter and really struggled with becoming parents (Quinn would be so frustrated with me for admitting that). I was able to relate to so many things in this book. It really just struck me right in the heartstrings.
Everything about this book is done well: the characters, the story, the writing, the captivity, the romance…there’s nothing to complain about.
I do think that anyone would enjoy this book. You don’t have to have experienced struggles in your marriage to relate to this book. It’s just real life. It’s so real and raw and just so worth reading. I loved it and devoured it. I can’t wait to read more Colleen Hoover books. I’ve been meaning to since reading Hopeless and Losing Hope years ago and I’m so glad I finally read another. Definitely a favourite author.
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About the book
Colleen Hoover delivers a tour de force novel about a troubled marriage and the one old forgotten promise that might be able to save it.
Quinn and Graham’s perfect love is threatened by their imperfect marriage. The memories, mistakes, and secrets that they have built up over the years are now tearing them apart. The one thing that could save them might also be the very thing that pushes their marriage beyond the point of repair.
All Your Perfects is a profound novel about a damaged couple whose potential future hinges on promises made in the past. This is a heartbreaking page-turner that asks: Can a resounding love with a perfect beginning survive a lifetime between two imperfect people?